Beautiful on the Inside,Making HerStory

Becoming Our Best Selves

Image via Lasting Memories Photography

So, as I said last Tuesday the My Daily She team is growing!  We’ve got two lovely ladies that are coming on board.  Last week we said hello to Jenny Hansen Lane!  Today say hello to Jo Brown! She is a beautiful, very talented Writer, Saleswoman, Marketer, Mother and Wife, who truly wants to make the world a better place by sharing her hope with others.  Living in Perry Utah, she will be assisting with editing, sales and marketing.  I am so grateful to have her as a new team member!  Take it away, Jo!

I was an anxious kid. From the very beginning, I remember not wanting to attend school. Every morning was a fight with my mother.

“No, Mom, I have a stomach ache!

I can’t go to school!

Don’t make me!”

Then every evening, I struggled falling asleep. I had a super irrational fear of getting sick in the night. Even into the third or fourth grade, I couldn’t fall asleep without my poor mom sitting beside me in bed.

Just wanting to blend in.

This fear and anxiety was so controlling! I feel like I missed out on a lot because of it. For example, I went home early from fifth-grade sleep away camp after a boy got sick in the cafeteria. I avoided activities that took me anywhere close to the edge of my comfort zone. For years I didn’t do things. Not only because I worried about getting sick but I also didn’t want to stand out or look silly or FAIL! I cared a lot about what people thought of me.

Why do we get so hung up on failure?!?

Thomas S. Monson said, “Our task is to become our best selves. One of God’s greatest gifts to us is the joy of trying again, for no failure ever need be final.”

At the height of my teenage angst, circa 1995.

Somewhere around my junior and senior years of high school, I quit worrying so much about what people thought of me. There were a lot of difficult changes in my life at that time. My family, good girlfriends and youth group leaders helped lift and inspire me. It was their examples of love and endless kindness that really stood out and made me realize I wanted to be that kind of friend. These people played significant roles in inspiring me to become my best self.

Graduation picture.

I’m always impressed when people go out of their way to make things happen. To me, they stand out as being authentic. Someone I think of when it comes to making things happen is my mom. When she was single, I remember a time our kitchen sink needed some repairs. It was somewhat of an urgent matter and there wasn’t time or means to wait around for someone to get the work done. She didn’t hesitate. Her attitude was, “I can do this!” My mom did some research and then just went in there, got her hands dirty, and DID IT herself. In that moment, I wanted to be fearless and bold like my mother.

Even when I am trying to be fearless and brave, things aren’t always sunshine and roses. After college, I married my high school sweetheart and the marriage lasted less than four years. I worked hard on staying positive after the divorce. I didn’t want that experience, that perceived failure, to stop me from progressing forward. It certainly wasn’t easy, though.

In years following the divorce, I moved forward by laughing and not taking things too serious. I focused a lot of energy on developing myself and identifying the kind of relationship I wanted in the future. I was determined to not miss out on opportunities. I started to love trying and learning new things! At 28, I made a list of thirty things to do before I turned 30. It included things like get a passport, go to a dueling piano bar and memorize “If” by Kipling. In a sense, you could say, I failed. I didn’t cross everything off by my 30th birthday but I had a blast and learned a ton about myself in the process.

Shortly after my 30th birthday, I met and married my husband. We have filled the last six years to the brim! Happily, I am still experimenting and trying new things all the time. Some of my recent interests include fermented foods, herbal tonics and tinctures and kombucha. Also, my husband is an excellent gardener and I love finding new ways to enjoy our harvests. You can find us on Instagram.

Image via Lasting Memories Photography

Me and my little buddy.

I have grown to love pushing myself in uncomfortable ways and putting myself out there. My goal is to encourage others to do the same. That’s one of the reasons I recently started a business. From my own personal journey, I’ve learned some failure is inevitable if you want to live a remarkable life. It is overwhelming, frustrating, and exhausting sometimes. I know. I’ve been there, but the more I’ve moved through tough periods, the more I’ve learned to grow.

I try to be coachable and accept constructive criticism. It helps me improve what I’m doing. I never assume that I know it all (because I don’t), nor do I ever feel that I am above failure. It’s hard to change and adjust but the more open I keep my mind and let go, the more I’m able to learn. When I get freaked out, I give myself a pep talk (like this one). “There’s nothing to be ashamed of!” Only anxiousness and fear create those feelings.

F. Enzio Busche said, “The pain of sacrifice lasts only one moment. It is the fear of the pain of sacrifice that makes you hesitate to do it.”

I don’t want to hesitate anymore! These days all I want is to stand out and look silly and FAIL! I even make videos about it! I look at each failure as a blessing in disguise. It is not through our successes that we become wise, but through our failures. I know failure can be maddening and sometimes even embarrassing but it teaches discipline, and it teaches me to value the process over the end results.

We’ve all heard the saying “don’t dwell in the past.” It’s true. Forgive yourself, forgive others, learn from your mistakes, let go and move forward. Imagine yourself being bold, strong and fearless!

Gordon B. Hinckley said, “Don’t nag yourself with thoughts of failure, simply do what you can in the best way you know.”

Image via Lasting Memories Photography

I’ve learned that if I want the life of my dreams, failure needs to be part of my life. I’m not going to lie, it’s scary sometimes. Embrace the temporary pain of uncertainty and struggle. That’s the only way I’ve learned to really grow and feel truly successful.

Previous Story
Next Story

You Might Also Like

  • Amy
    June 13, 2017 at 9:04 am

    It’s so great to meet new members of the My Daily She team! I just know you ladies will keep knocking itnout of the park.

    • Jo
      June 14, 2017 at 12:18 pm

      Thank you so much, Amy!

  • Barb
    June 21, 2017 at 3:35 pm

    Thanks for your thoughts on becoming our best selves. Fear also prevents me from taking risks that could have big rewards in the long run. Learning to accept that I might fail and to move on from that is a big step. I hope to hear more from you in the future.

  • Thank You, Thank You! – My Daily She
    September 5, 2017 at 5:02 am

    […] a very special thanks to Jo Brown who has graciously stepped in to share her time, talents and energy. She is my right hand gal on […]

  • %d bloggers like this: